Hmmm. Say I know this girl, that talks about herself as if she were talking about her friend. And she's really not understanding why this guy acts the way he acts.

Jess, we aren't as confusing as you make us out to be. And no, not all guys are slimeballs.

If you like him that much, tell him that you're hurt. But let me ask you something. Do you think it will work this time? Because obviously it didn't work last time. Infact, I'm thinking that your friend "cut it off" herself, not the other way around. But now "your friend" is obviously attracted to this guy again, so she's trying to make it work.

Do you think that it will work? I dunno Jess, I really don't.

Anything that you do, just try to remember that you've got people out here that care about you, even if they do make fun of your accent.

Peace,

Beebes

Ok, so your friend still likes the guy? The guy doesn't seem to like the friend. And the guy doesn't know the friend likes him? Does this seem like a situation that's going on on my side of the field? A friend of mine likes me but doesn't quite like her the same way... I'm not sure if this is the cure, but maybe he realizes that it's just not going to work, or maybe (considering I know his "story") he doesn't want to be with someone he cares about? Good luck in whatever happens. Just don't forget who you can go to when you need to... All your friends that know what you're talking about.

Oh, and what Alex said about the accent... you should listen to him. It's kinda like how you all make fun of me for everything... it's just in fun. I seriously doubt you guess make fun of me because you can't stand me... or else you probably wouldn't have dealt with me all year when I was being a butthead to everyone.

Capt. over and out!

How could this friend possibly like him when he's obviously and totally a Shallow Hal? To hang in helplessly the way she does is indicative of her own shallowness and doesn't understand that there has to be at least some depth and endurance to fall in love.

Ok, Jess. You made that kinda confusing, but I know who and what you're talking about already. I know that he still likes your "friend". But he just doesn't know what he wants at the time. Maybe the reason he doesn't want to go out with your friend is because maybe he's thinking it won't work out? I dunno. I've already talked to you about this. I don't know if I'm much of a help, but I'm seriously trying to be. If you ever wanna talk to me about this you know to call me. I know I won't be here for a week(band camp) But you have the # to my grandma's cell phone that I'm taking, so if you need to, just call me there. If I don't answer, I'll be sure to give you a call back asap.

~carebear~

Your obviously quite young such that guys="boys", but there is a saying "Treat 'em mean and keep 'em keen", that applies even in Adult Life.

There is a whole bunch of psychological reasons why this works. Its not fool proof. In fact only fools and the inexperienced will fall for it.. but it does work as your friend is testament too. This is not a guy thing however. Both sexes play it. He knows he has some power and he is prepared to exploit it. He feels good and doesn;t care whether she does.

He's not a slime ball. He's human.
You teach people how to treat you. Its your girlfriend fault if she doesn't feel good.

At least it's clear that the guy's an ass in that scenario. My problem is with a girl who seems to show interest sometimes and yet sometimes doesn't care. If she was speaking badly of me, at least that would give me a clear sign. Sometimes I want to slap her, but sometimes I think she's waiting for me to make the next move.

...gee, I really don't know how to make you understand without making this too cold , but there's a lot of "biochemistry"now known to be going on in your body to explain how you feel / felt with a particular guy. Just to make it short, it just so happened that the face that registered when your mind was most vulnerable to these brain chemicals (neurotransmitters is suppose to be the proper term) was his. And it could've been any scumbag, you'd still register that face and person and associate them with pleasurable feelings, and would want to be with that person no matter how much of an a_ _h_le he behaves with you or other girls. I hate to take the magic out of love, and I'd like to think there is mystery and divine idunnowat to love, but what you probably experienced was a feeling of affection - not love. It'll pass and come again when you're set up for the same scenario. Maybe that time around, you'd be asking a different question. So, get it all out, beat the pillow or what not (no injuries please) and enjoy what life offers. They say Love is , after all that's said and done, a decison. But that's a loong story, I'd rather blog about.

Now I finally know ... the attitude of most of the girls sucks!

Thank you everyone. You have no idea how much of an impact all of your comments are. Except for one that i don't understand. Thanks to alex, ashley, and brandon for your comments. That makes me feel good to know that i have support and i can call you guys my friends thank you so much. Also i posted this article cause it all needed to come out cause i had to tell someone else besides ashley. Also ashley you always help you are there for me and that is all i can ask from you. I love all of you!!

~blondelife~

Kid, it might help you get along if you absorb this simple principle: all males, at every period of their lives from the cradle to the fucking grave, seek the greatest gratification for the least effort. And they prefer that gratification to come in two forms - sex and beer. If they're too young to drink and fuck, then they prefer their gratification in the form of candy plus a quick feel.

The only other lesson a woman truly needs to learn in order to be a screaming success in life is this: pussy = power over men. If you can grasp those two simple facts, and ditch all the moralising bullshit that will be shoved your way in order to prevent you from understanding, then no man will ever hurt you (or your friend, because I'm sure you'll explain them to her) again.

What's a life-support system for a penis? The man behind it.

~~DivasRule~~

yeah my fiance can be the biggest jerk sometime, to the point where i dont know if im just his gf or fiance. i get so mad at myself cuz i love him so much, and i cant seem to find the gutts to put my foot down. i kinda feel like it would just make things worst. lol and i couldnt wait to get with, if i only knew

as sad as thats sounds, that is so true.